There are five love languages and finding what you and your partner’s top love language is, is the best way to experience and receive love. That is, according to Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by author Gary Chapman. Gary Chapman says that it is important to know your love language, so you can effectively communicate with your partner on how you receive love. Let’s get into the five love languages.
Physical Touch:
The first love language is Physical Touch. If you feel closer to your significant other when you are holding hands, touching their arm or giving each other a hug, physical touch is likely one of your love languages. If your partner or friend has this love language, you might remind yourself to hug them more often it could make your person feel more connected to you.
Gift Giving:
The second love language is Gift Giving. If you find yourself remembering little things your partner says they wanted and buying it for them later, you could be a gift giver. Gift giving is often thought of as a large gesture; however, even a piece of candy left for your partner can go a huge way for those who like to receive gifts in a relationship.
Acts of Service:
The third love language is Acts of Service. Acts of Service are shown by planning dates, cooking for your partner or doing their least favorite chore for them. Acts of Service reminds your partner you are thinking of them and taking one task off their plate.
Quality Time:
The fourth love language is Quality Time. Spending intentional time with your partner is the pillar of Quality Time. All relationships need quality time, but partners with quality time as their love language appreciate when their partner is intentionally planning time for their relationship and is present when together. If this is your partner’s love language, being intentional about the time you spend together is key.
Words of Affirmation:
The final love language is Words of Affirmation. Words of Affirmation are expressed through compliments or saying I love you to your partner. This can be done verbally, through handwritten notes, or texts. Saying “I love you can” go a long way for a partner who’s love language is Words of Affirmation.
Which one am I?
If you have read more about the five love languages and do not know which one you identify with most, do not worry! Most people can relate to multiple love languages and do not want all love from a singular category. However, now that you have learned your top two or three categories you can strengthen your current relationships by knowing what you need from your partner.